Ladies Should Not Accept Jobs That Take Them Away From Home Excessively
Imagine you’re a mom to two children and a wife to a
hard-working husband that works locally. You’ve been offered a better job on a
significantly higher salary but you’ve to work overseas from time to time. That
also means, you’ve to spend probably a week or two in a month away from your
husband and young children. Which will you choose- family or money?
Money's not
everything
If the only reason you take the job is for the money, you will regret it. The best advice is: "Never do anything just because of the money. Money is important; consider the money. But if it comes down to the money, don't do it". I’ve heard from my parents most of the time when they gave me advices about finding jobs in the future. They told me there are some people took a job they didn't want because it paid more than the one they did, and had to quit because they couldn't stand it. If you want the job for other reasons, fine. But never do it just for the money.
If the only reason you take the job is for the money, you will regret it. The best advice is: "Never do anything just because of the money. Money is important; consider the money. But if it comes down to the money, don't do it". I’ve heard from my parents most of the time when they gave me advices about finding jobs in the future. They told me there are some people took a job they didn't want because it paid more than the one they did, and had to quit because they couldn't stand it. If you want the job for other reasons, fine. But never do it just for the money.
What price a
family life?
You sound tempted but you should be crystal clear both to your husband and yourself about exactly how much time you will be at home, and how much energy you are likely to have left over to participate in the life of the house. I don't think extra cash and holidays make up for daily contact with a young family.
You sound tempted but you should be crystal clear both to your husband and yourself about exactly how much time you will be at home, and how much energy you are likely to have left over to participate in the life of the house. I don't think extra cash and holidays make up for daily contact with a young family.
Cost is more
than financial
Working away from home will incur significantly higher costs - both financial and emotional. Financially, you will be paying for accommodation, as well as travel to and from home. Phone home nightly and your telecoms bill will soar. Your car insurer may demand higher premiums if they know you are driving long distances twice a week to a work-based address. Food and cooking costs will rise for both you and the family you leave behind, while quality of diet declines. People on their own, or single adults with children, tend to cook less and eat more ready meals. This may have long-term health implications; at the very least weight quickly gained is much harder to lose. If you only rent for three nights a week you will incur time costs in travel and packing and unpacking; stressful in itself after a hard week's work. You will sometimes forget vital items like the shaver, then spend time and money replacing them. On those long, lonely evenings you may be tempted to spend money, for example drinking, whereas you would have spent that time with the family at home. Emotionally, the costs may be far higher. How strong will your marriage be seeing your partner for just three days, four nights, a week?
Working away from home will incur significantly higher costs - both financial and emotional. Financially, you will be paying for accommodation, as well as travel to and from home. Phone home nightly and your telecoms bill will soar. Your car insurer may demand higher premiums if they know you are driving long distances twice a week to a work-based address. Food and cooking costs will rise for both you and the family you leave behind, while quality of diet declines. People on their own, or single adults with children, tend to cook less and eat more ready meals. This may have long-term health implications; at the very least weight quickly gained is much harder to lose. If you only rent for three nights a week you will incur time costs in travel and packing and unpacking; stressful in itself after a hard week's work. You will sometimes forget vital items like the shaver, then spend time and money replacing them. On those long, lonely evenings you may be tempted to spend money, for example drinking, whereas you would have spent that time with the family at home. Emotionally, the costs may be far higher. How strong will your marriage be seeing your partner for just three days, four nights, a week?
Work out what
you'll miss
The obvious first thought is that it isn't going to be worth it if your mid-week expenses don't leave you with the surplus cash and holiday money you are after. The next is that you are missing what you are getting now. If that is a lengthy commute, the chance to get home in time to see the children snoring in bed, squeeze in a meal, and have an argument, and at the weekend a chance to catch up on your sleep and the work time you lost commuting, then this new scheme could work for you. If, on the other hand, you are used to getting home and spending time with your family chatting, doing homework, and sitting down together to eat, then it might be a more tricky dilemma. Will your kids be happy? Will your husband cope alone? I presume you've asked their opinion on this?
The obvious first thought is that it isn't going to be worth it if your mid-week expenses don't leave you with the surplus cash and holiday money you are after. The next is that you are missing what you are getting now. If that is a lengthy commute, the chance to get home in time to see the children snoring in bed, squeeze in a meal, and have an argument, and at the weekend a chance to catch up on your sleep and the work time you lost commuting, then this new scheme could work for you. If, on the other hand, you are used to getting home and spending time with your family chatting, doing homework, and sitting down together to eat, then it might be a more tricky dilemma. Will your kids be happy? Will your husband cope alone? I presume you've asked their opinion on this?
Regrets, you'll
have a few.
I think if you don't ever try it you may have regrets. Three days for your husband to take care of your small children will fly by - it can be such a busy time - if you then make the most of your time together and plan fun family things to do when you are home. Like most things in life they need working out and working at - work as a team with your husband and discuss any possible hurdles. Look on it as an opportunity - just imagine how pleased those little faces will be when they haven't seen you for a couple of days, and all the things you will need to tell each other and share.
I think if you don't ever try it you may have regrets. Three days for your husband to take care of your small children will fly by - it can be such a busy time - if you then make the most of your time together and plan fun family things to do when you are home. Like most things in life they need working out and working at - work as a team with your husband and discuss any possible hurdles. Look on it as an opportunity - just imagine how pleased those little faces will be when they haven't seen you for a couple of days, and all the things you will need to tell each other and share.
Think I missed some points? Nah, those are just my opinions. If you think it's better to accept jobs that has high salary but takes you away from home excessively, go ahead, I didn't say it was a bad thing. Just that, don't be a working maniac that works overtime until you missed little things that are happening around you.
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